When you are young, you learn to identify feelings aided by other people. If people in the environment do not give good help, you may become confused in understanding your inner world.
A psychotherapist teaches patients to begin listening introspectively and search for what they feel and want. They become increasingly sincere and true to themselves, but can also be more troublesome for those in their surroundings as they no longer try to be accommodating.
By getting into contact with your feelings and anxiety, you may temporally become more anxious, but afterwards you will be more calm and peaceful.
If you do not have a therapist you can try to identify your feelings as follows:
- Take the opportunity when you feel physically bad.
- Lie down in a quiet room and close your eyes.
- You will probably get a most unpleasant feeling.
- This feeling of unpleasantness may become almost unbearable but concentrate on your real feeling in spite of this. You will gradually become more and more aware of of your real feelings.
- Worry, loathing, shame, anger, fear and grief are examples of suppressed feelings.
- The unpleasantness feels dangerous but it is in reality the suppressed feelings which are dangerous, not those you aware of.
- Let the feeling of unpleasantness spread and make intensive contact with it. Allow yourself to express these feelings by making sounds and movements.
- Within a quarter of an hour the feeling of unpleasantness will have probably disappeared and you have learnt what to do to begin solving your problems.