Many women find that it is much easier to get orgasm through masurbation, or by their partner stimulating them in the same way as during masturbation. They do not easily get orgasm during vaginal intercourse. The vaginal intercourse is perhaps wished for, or fed by misconceptions.

An ideal is to reach a peak at the same time as your partner. But the different excitation curve in men and women often cause a woman to come later than the man. Vaginal sexual intercourse results in ejaculation for the man in 3-5 minutes. But a much longer time is needed for the woman to orgasm.

It does not mater in what way you can reach an orgasm. Neither the woman nor the man should feel pressure on how to get orgasm. It is utterly impossible to reach orgasm through the same stimulation in man and woman.

For many women, it does not matter how they have an orgasm. They do not care if they reach orgasm before or after their partner.