Fear of dating, and mistrust in women.

I am a man that has a fear of introducing myself to women I consider attractive. As a youth I have experienced many embarrassing moments experimenting with dating women. I dated a girl once that "dated" me just to meet a friend of mine. Another girl used me to get her real boyfriend jealous because she caught him cheating on her. that resulted in a violent fist fight between her boyfriend and I. I also dated a girl that cheated on me (I did not catch her, but she was pregnant at 16 while we were dating), someone I knew from the church I attended. I dated a woman from 17 years old until I was 22, She in turn told me that she just wanted to be friends, later i find out because she was seeing someone else for 2 years before our separation. Now, I have not dated a woman in 5 years. I get squeemish anytime i think of dating let alone introducing myself to attractive women. I am a person that never "settle". I have been recieving tremendous pressure from family members to "get a life" or "get a wife". I would like to date again, but I am extremely mistrusting of women, and i easily lose focus when I associate with attractive women. By losing focus, I mean I have a lack of control, and I am nervous about what I would say. I need help with this issue because it seems to be the primary focus of my day. What should I do if I would like to eliminate this problem?

Get to know a woman before you allow yourself to fall in love. When you are in love, you do not pay attention to signs of bad character. Choose dating women that are not extremely attractive, as they probably make you more nervous. They are also more spoiled as they are desired by many men. Also try to find someone who talks and concentrate on being a good listener.