Married man having an affair with unmarried girl

I am married and have slept with many women after marriage. I am having a good married life I do not have any problems with it. In this course I met a girl younger to me and we became intimate and I found out that first time ever after my wife I love this girl like crazy I am very possesive about her and now the time is there where she will be married to her X boy friend and I am not at all facing it like a man. I do want her to have her house and family and i no this is some thing I can not give her. Now that it is happining for her I am completely messed up I think I do not have the heart to meet her man my heart sinks when it comes to me that I will be no more there It is getting difficult excepting it. I am going in to this dipression that I can not afford that I have a family to take care off. My mind is not thinking any thing else except the situtaion. She is very disturbed too as I no she loves me like crazy. But she has to start her real life it is not her mistake. Please tell me what should I do where I can face her take this other man in her life start giving time to my work and fmaily and some how accept this bitter truth of my life. I cry and stay alone hide myself from every one I do not want to be in contact with her but I get scared and only her voice pulls me out of this fear. I no our contact will not be good for us. Please help me

You have to allow your mistress to get what you already have, a home and a family. To give her up is hard but has to be done anyway. Perhaps this experience will increase you awareness of how women feel when you leave them.

Would your symptoms be those of a sex addict?