I'm in love with a married man.

Hello,

I have no one to talk to about a problem - I'm in love with a married man. May I ask for advice?

I'm a 20 year old university student. I met this guy at school, we quickly became friends, we get along really well, and we can talk about just about anything together. I've recently developped really strong feelings for him. I recently told him that I love him (he told me he loves me back...). I know that he has feelings for me too, but he insists that they will pass and that we will be able to just be friends for years to come. He doesn't want to cheat (or so he claims) but we can't keep off each other. I really wonder what has been keeping us together. I know that he is attracted to me, which is what has been making me skeptical about the future of our relationship. I think it's that we offer a lot of support and comfort to each other. We're just there for each other... to listen to each other, hold each other when we need it. He said that my presence has made him a better husband to his wife... I feel really guilty having feelings for him. But I want him! I want to act on my impulses when I'm with him.

Do you think this relationship is doomed already? Do you think this lust will pass and we could actually be friends? Or could I be making a big mistake by even considering that? Should I distance myself from him now, while things have not become very serious? If so, how could I do that without hurting him?

Thank you!

Do not care about his feelings. He will soon find another innocent victim. But run away from him and find a husband of your own, if you do not want to be the mistress of a married man.