Teenage daughter problems

I think my daughter is depressed. She is 14 years old. She does not act sad, however, she wears sweatshirts in 85 degree weather, I can't get her to shower, bathe properly or brush her teeth, clean her hair, etc. I am not capable of teaching her ANYTHING, she never listens and consumes HUGE quantities of food after being told to control her portions. She has had to deal with several moves, her father coming back into her life and the birth of my second child.

She has told relatives she thinks about cutting her arms and that she hears voices sometimes and sees things in the mirror. I am horribly worried...I appreciate any advice, we can not afford counseling but I am willing to go to the State (WA) for help in this area.

Take your daughter to a psychiatrist as soon as possible.

It is terrible to hear that your daughter cannot get the help she needs. The earlier she gets help, the better. Are there no possibilities in the country where you live like getting help from Church or Social Services?

Your daughter needs psychiatric help.