When I face any person I tend to look at his/her sex organs. If I am face to face with a woman, I tend to gradually look towards her breasts. This depends on the dress of the individual facing me. If the dress is very conservative then there is no problem but if she wears even slightly accentuating dress or has a very good figure I tend to look and her breasts. This is happening involuntarily without my knowledge and so I have very few female friends. After many months of this, I am not able to look even men in the eye and tend to look down or here and there. I wish to know what is this strange behaviour. When I am not obliged to talk to that person or am alone I feel disgusted that I have actually spoilt the existing relation with the person.
I am unable to concentrate on my work and am not productive due to this issue and it is causing me a lot of mental anxiety and hairloss has also increased. I am a 27 year unmarried male in IT industry and I have to interact with a lot of people daily. I dont know where is this going to lead me. Please advise me on what I should do regarding this problem.
Do not look in the eyes, look att people's mouth instead. All men look at sexily dressed women, that is why women use sexually attractive clothes. Do not stare. Try to be discreet so the women do not notice it. A girlfriend would perhaps help you to be less interested in other women.
Your reactions sound like a so-called conditioned reflex. Search with Google with the question "unlearn conditioned reflex". I did this, and found the following article, which might be helpful to you.
You could also try to develop a suitable conditioned reflex. Every time this happens, immediately look at her mouth. After doing this a number of times, you will have developed a conditioned reflex, so that every time you see an attractive woman, you look at her mouth instead.
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