I have extreme sexuality problems with my partner. She often feels like nothing more than a target of mine, and I want to show her the respect and desire she deserves. She feels like my infatuation with her butt, and oral sex makes her "feel like a whore". I experienced anal sex with her 4 times, and has since stopped because she feels like its not intimate. Same with rear entry of vaginal intercourse, I enjoy it because I can lay my body on top of hers and enjoy the feeling of body to body contact. She thinks I don't want to look at her face during intercourse. Everything I enjoy, she dislikes, and because of that, I often bring it up in arguments, and just daily routines. I'm seeing my Dr. tomorrow, and will ask about lithium, and see what he thinks might slow my constant want.
I have curved my mention of things like anal and oral during us making out, knowing to not inferiate her, but I still want it, and she knows it. She asks me how I want it, and she then immediately replies, Why bother asking, I know what you want!
I was abused as a kid, and she believes that my urges are probably stemmed from that. I used to constantly look at girls as figures and stare at how tight their jeans were to their butts, but I've curved all of that. Now to just slow my release on my girlfriend.
I guess my point is, and I agree, that all I do is make comments, and gestures of groping her, or pressing myself into her butt. I overly enjoy this, and it makes her feel uncomfortable. Her biggest complaint is in her weight. To be on her side, she is theoretically 20 pounds overweight, and so she exercises. But 20 pounds? And because of that, it makes her feel uncomfortable? That I like her body shaped as it is?
I am very rude a lot of times, in just randomly saying comments, in a discussion, perhaps about her work. Or that I'll make hints while doing something else together. My drive is phenominal!