I am a 35 year old woman married to a 40 year old man. My husband is a heavy drinker and I do not drink of course because I have to babysit him all the time when he is drinking. My husband never spends anytime with his family on the weekends he is always looking for a way out to drink and to go with his brothers or friends. He will not defend me to anyone and he lies about me all the time to people. He calls me lazy, but yet I keep our home clean and I feed the children and they are clean as well and I am also actively looking for work. But he tells me that he does not want me to work at all. He said he would rather me stay at home with our son then to go to work. My husband would rather buy beer then buy milk for the children. I get child support from my ex husband and my daughter never gets anything out of it because he thinks that it should all be used for bills in the home. I told him some of it should be used for bills. He also tells me that he shouldn't have to put a roof over my head and my daughters head at all. He said that he should not have to support us. We should support our own selves. Whenever we argue or fight he does it right infront of the kids. Then he takes our son with him. One of his brothers called me a lier when I told him that he hit me. The other of his brothers told me that if his brother wanted him to hate me he would. My sister in law told me that I am her sister in law when we are not arguing. Everything that my daughter does, well it is never right. It is always wrong. He won't tell her that he loves her. He won't buy her anything at all. He thinks that mother's day is for his mother only and it does not pertain to me because I am not his mother so he won't even take the kids out to get me a card. Every year he makes my mother's day miserable. I feel like he doesn't appreciate what I do. I bust my rear cleaning the house all day long and doing laundry and cooking and he comes home and wrecks the house and then tells me that what I cooked is not good. My family well he says that they are no good. He thinks that my family is all rotten. He talks about them all the time. He calls me mother a cunt, bitch and a number of other names. He tells me that my mother is not allowed in the house at all. Then he tells me that my daughter has to leave too. I have not had sex with him only because I do not want to get pregnant by him at all and I am not happy. I cry all the time. I feel lost the other half of the time. I am depressed because he tells me that if I go to work noone is going to want to work with me. He blames me for everything and my daughter as well as my mother. My mother has in the past helped us with paying rent and the rest of our bills. But he will not ask his parents or family to help us at all. And then after he asks my family for help he talks about them like they are garbage. His brother threatens my mother all the time. Everytime we get into an arguement he calls his brother or brothers to pack his things and leave. He threatens me every month that he is not going to pay the rent at all. He tells me that he will stop payment on the rent too. I do not know what to do. I am confused and I feel very alone right now. Can I please get some help?