help

i have really hurt my girlfriend for whatever reasons, i was selfish when it came to supporting her in anything. becuase of this she is emotionally very hurt and depressed. she has lost her trust in me. i realize my mistakes and now i am trying to make things right. but the thing is that whenever i try to help her or encourage her that things will be alright, she refuses to listen to me. she says that it irritates her even more when i talk about the so called good future. and now i dont know what to do. she says that she will come out of it herself, handle it herself, without me. should i leave her to this? but if i do, then it could go the other way, that i did not show support and did not help. if she sorts things out, herself, is that the best option? will she ever forgive me and ever feel the same again? will she ever trust me again? should i back off for some time and give her some breathing space? please help, i dont want to hurt her anymore.

Write your girlfriend a letter where you tell her that you regret what you have done and that you will never do it again, if that is true. Ask her if there is something you can do to make everything good again between you.

Learn something for the future, so you will not destroy any more relations later on. There is a risk that in new, future relation, you will also hurt your girlfriend and destroy your changes for a happy relationship. How can you change yourself so that a future relationship will work better?