I have been dating a guy for three months and I am very concerned about his depression. He has a history of alcoholism and symptoms of depression. He has been on an anti-depressant and has recently stopped taking the pills. He doesn't want to be on pills and says he doesn't want any help. How can i best support him and help to convince him to help himself? Is it best to just continue coddling him or give him space to discover his own answers?
It depends very much on you. You seem to be attracted by this guy. You know he has a history of alcoolism and is vulnerable to depression. Stopping antidepressant medication is not at all a proof of rational behavior. So he behaves more or less like a little child, isn´t he? If you are willing to take care for a little child, you might want to coddle him. You should expect a bad outcome with severe depression and alcohol problem. You might believe in miracles and he will change without therapy. I believe in miracles, but I do not believe he will change without any reason.
If you are deeply in love with this guy you should not put to much pressure on him. But : He must be willing to change to have a chance of a fair relationship. Otherwise he is still the little child and you will be terribly depressed in 6 or 12 months.
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