A widower & a new relationship at some point.

Hello,

I have a question pertaining to the loss of my fiance'. I recently lost her to a car accident a little over a month ago. While I am not ready to start dating yet, I know the time will come. When I think about it, the only person I can se myself with is one of her sisters who is in the process of getting a divorce. We get along very well, but I'm not sure if these are normal feelings? Is it abnormal to want to move on with her sister? I would like to think that I am not using her as a replacement for my loss. I guenuinly have strong feelings for her...that border on love. Is this unhealthy? Should I forget it? Can you just give me some proffesional advice?

Lost

If your late fiancée’s sister returns your feelings, I see no reason why you shouldn’t be able to be happy together. Are there people in your surroundings who would find your relationship offensive? In that case, be very discrete until the initial grieving is over. Begin by offering your comfort and friendship. And take your time.