How i can bring back my personality am lost

well, am a woman who used to be close to people i never looked for attention ,but attention always come to me .in my country my freinds my family everyone i know used to apprecciate me, they apprecciate the person who i am , a lot of people say that i am a psychologue by natures, i know i am a deep thinker and a good listner i always know peoples needs and i share with them ,i make them feel better about themselves i make them see their own mistakes and with a good heart i make them change it for their good , i used to feel happy when i see my self making the others smile. but i went out of my country and ihad a freind roomate(from same my nationality) we get close to each other she confess to me that she is having problem to be with people,she was always intrested to hear my opinions and my analysis she told me that she is learning a lot from me and she ask me once to show her how she can be with people i always used to get attention from me and give it to her either with people or with me coz i felt this is what will make her personality shine , she is an intellectual girl which does not have the chance to be with a lot of people .that works she get selfconfidence she become a good talker.
with the time this freind of mine start making me look inferior to her in front of the others in a negative way she always impulse her opinion she always show that what she say is the right thing without discussion i used to discuss her and most of the time we end by missundestanding , then i told her several times that each one of us is free to do or to say things the way he choose , she always apologize and tell me that she needs me i am the only best freind she had. but in my back she always talk about me in a negative way when she doesnt understand me she easyly juge me with the others freinds.in the begining i ignore it i didnt give too much importance coz i didnt want any fights i prefered peace , calm so people used to beleive her becoz we were sharing the same house .with the time i start been sad when i felt this and i heard the others talking bad about my personality attacking my way of thinking or wathever . i decide to be far from them i stop explaining my behavior or what am thinking about , they make me feel that am abnormal they start looking to each other by eyes or through a secret smile.i choose not to react but deep inside me i was hurt. i was going to get crazy i set with my self and i start searching maybe i am wrong about my self let see.
i write down my beleives my values i start comparing i start reading in my holy book ,i get so angry on my self why i let peole make me so fragile now am having fobia to set with people ,i am so afraid to say my opinion i dont want peole to think that i am challeging them i dont want to discuss anything with them .now if i have the chance to set with a group of new people i look weird i set like a rock i dont give my opinions i dont show who i am .
between me and myself i know that i am intelligent i work too hard for my values i enjoy my personality by my own i am too human i apprecciate the human values rights and needs , i cant hurt others feelings am too afraid to say something in somehow hurt their feelings or make themselves look inferior coz i feel their pains immediately . i dont know what to do please advice me.

Man is know by the company he keeps certainly you are not in good company so called friend of your are no friend of yours .One thing i have learn in my life you should learn to love youself and prase youself no matter what.People will try to sabatoage you but when is this possible when we give them that much laverage.Have the best attitude and Your world should not end with this few jurk friends and especially that bitch who you have no control over or know how to answer her.You know as a child i alway use to think life is no fun without friends but life is really not good when you don't stand for youself and learn to love yourself.And this kind of jerk you can't be missing when they are gone .We hold on to them since we are so dependent.I have moved to so many places and country now and believe me i make so many friends fast but i have learn one thing that you have to be your own lover,friend and partner .You have to get control youself not controlling other and especially bad behave people start ignoring them 1st and start explore your potential and use it in some good reason .I know its hard to change but you will have to change your perseption.

your other problem maybe is you are missing that this girl has got grip over herself and over you .She is controlling or have got a lot of control over herself no need of you .But people of this short just know how to take advantage and then move on .People in general selfish or rather care about themself which is good but when they start distroying somones life to get some attension is no good but that is the only way they know to get attention and loved which is foolish too coz very soon who ever she is impressing will move on .
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