** Re: My wife is having an affair with a married man

I am married for 8 years and we having only one baby - she is 7 months now. We had a good marriedge. My wife started with a new occupation in January 2008, and the salary is 3x more than mine. After she came back from an induction course in January 2008 I start to realize that my wife is not the same person anymore. After a few days at home she told me that she met a guy on the course and that she feels more for him as a friend. I asked her if she will give me a chance to work on our marridge. She told me it is fine, but behind my back she was still in contact with this guy on a daily basis. Last week my wife book a place close to home to get her head clean, but I followed it up and found out that she did booked in to the place but the same day she took a flight to him because he is staying 600km away and she spend the Wednesday untill the Sunday with him. Through contacts I get hold of this guy's wife and she called me and confirm that he was away from home the same time as my wife. when the guy returned home to his wife he asked her for a divorse, the same with my wife,she asked me the same. This guy is married for 15 years and have 2 children, one is 13 and the other one is 7. My wife is 27 and the guy is 46. My wife is now comming with lots of stories that she was not happy in our marridge but never complain once in the 8 years of any marridge problems, and that she must take a chance with this guy to she if she will be more happy with this guy. She don't even want to give us a chance to work on our marridge. Do you think that things will work out for my wife and do you have any advice for me how to keep my wife and to change her mind so that we can work on our marridge. I love her very much and dont want to loose her. At this stage no one can talk sence into her not even her parents or family. She is now only thinking about her own happiness and dont care about any one around her. Hope you can assist in this matter. Help please - I love her so much I will do anything for her. I never treated her once bad in her life, so that is why it is a big shock for me to hear from her that she wants a divorse. hope to hear from you.