My step-daughter and I have had our problems. My husband always sides with her (which I guess is natural). However, my daughter is very close to her as this is her only sister and also tends to side with her. My question relates to this. Every time my husband and my daughter seem to spend a lot of time together I notice that my husband treats me differently and not in a nice way. I wondered if they engage in conversations that place me in a negative light on a regular basis, could this play out in how he treats me?
I divorced him 10 years ago due to what I called "family interference in our marriage". I did remarry him 5 years ago, moved out of state and have been very happy. Until recently, when we decided to take a trip back home in December. We have been fighting ever since I booked the flight. My daughter, who lives here, has been spending a lot of time with him lately. I know that they have had conversations that do not put me in a positive spotlight (in their minds), regarding my step-daughter. I would need a lot more space to cover the whole story, however I will say that I spent time in therapy after my divorce, but they did not. I would greatly appreciate any input.
Do not give your family a reason to say nasty things about you. Treat them in a good way. Do not quarrel. Ask them in a friendly way to satisfy your needs. Show appreciation when they do what you want. As you have been in therapy, you have knowledge that they don't have. Try to stay grown up and calm, or go for a walk to calm you down.