Psyche of men

ok. i really need help with understanding this.

I became friends with Matt in 2004. it started off online. we met in a social community. online interactions grew. he confessed he had liked someone since he was 18 and he vowed to marry her there and then. i did start liking him. we then met after a couple of months.

from one meeting, came the next. he sent romantic texts to me. i thought he had started liking me, which i did want. but i had his commitment at the back of my head always.

i fell in love with him. but nevertried to talk it out. he did know though. he confessed after his engagement, and he told me he was indifferent on purpose.

anyways, i did not lose hope, and he kept being the selfhe was. texting me sweet stuff. then his engagement broke off and we got intimate. the intimacy hung around for a couple of months, after which his engagement patched up.

the question is, if he took me for a friend like he said he did, why did he have to be intimate? be my first kiss? he knew i fell for him, yet he led me on. he announced his wedding date to me, and i was shattered. was he just attracted?

i wanna know how his psyche works. what is this working called. not just flirting i know. it is something i want to tell myself. he knows how much he means to me, he still does and we are frend after whtever happened.

he was silent after his wedding. very quiet. but then after 3-4 months it just got back in rhythm. we are back to being the best of friends. doe she actually feel anything?

Many men prefer to have two women rather than one. It makes them feel safe and happy. The problem is yours and will also be his wife's, if she gets to know.

He is making his wife unhappy. This is a moral problem rather than a disorder.

Letter from a reader: I would only say that he was lying about breaking his engagement(assuming that u never met his wife). Some men are more interested in physical intimacy and fool the women who love them. the same has happened to you. I understand that you cannot be away from him but i would suggest that you start thinking about the life you have and things would get better for you slowly.