Marriage Problems

Hi-
I have been married almost 11 years to my husband. We have a 3 yr. old son. My husband has within the last 2 years been unbearable to live with. He has developed an anxiety problem. And seems to be bit of a hypercondriac. However, he has been angry and verbally abusive to me. He continues on a daily basis to belittle me and explode with anger for minor little things. Like this AM. He asked me why I make a full pot of coffee and don't drink it. Asking me in a way that I am like a child. "Why, Why, why would you do that". I don't answer when he acts like that and he explodes cussing in front of our little boy. He acts very much like a uncontrollable baby that it is driving me crazy to the point where I dislike him more than I have the guts to express. When I try to talk to him about it he blames it all on his anxiety problems which he blames his anxiety problems on me. he told me that I dont care and I need to lose weight and quit smoking. I only weigh 39 lbs and am 5 ft. 6 inches tall. So I am not heavy.... Anyway, he says that I do not pay any attention to him.
I really feel that I am incapable of paying attention to him because I am constantly angry with him. How can I pay attention to him when I dislike him so much? Is it possible for his anxiety to be causing him so much anger? Is it my fault? How do I help him with this? I feel that I could not get a divorce due to my little boy. I could never do that to him.
How can I change things?

It is not good for your son to live in this negative atmosphere. Either give your husband the love he needs to feel well or leave him. If you want to stay in this marriage, accept your husband the way he is and ask him in a friendly way, when you want something from him. Give him appreciation when he is satisfying your needs and encourage him to get help for his emotional problems. Tell him that you like, trust and admire him, whenever you have a reason to do so. Good luck!