A patient told a therapist that her two year old daughter refused to eat.
The mother was desperate and afraid that the daughter would starve to
death. Their relationship became impossible; the mother lost all control
and shook the daughter because of her refusal to eat. The mother said that
she prepared three good meals a day; Breakfast lunch and dinner, all
The answer from the therapist was: It may be that your daughter's
hunger does not coincide with the family's mealtimes. I suggest that
you put small attractive and nutritious plates of food in her room. Then
take little notice, and let her discover her hunger and eat when she wants
Don't continue a power struggle with her, because she will win and
use her refusal as a weapon against you.
To eat or not to eat must be between her hunger and the food. She
won't starve to death, and as long as food is there she will eat
when she wants to.
You needn't be perfect; just do your best. Good luck!