Is it possible that my partner was circumcised?
i am african living in the Netherlands. I have a dutch partner (100% dutch)for about 7 years now. She is the only white person i have ever made love to.The first time we had to make love, i discovered immediately that what i know as clitoris was not present in her.I was not egoistic, so i stopped and asked her immediately. Her answer was that she has it. It is there! she said. That is not practised in the Netherlands! she said.She also said that why she was not getting aroused could be due to the pill which she has been using for long. Because of this explantions and because she is a nurse and i thought she knows enough about sexuality, we carried forward.But truely till date i have really not seen her enjoy sex.We now have children and she tries to blame on the daily stress of dealing with children.
I have suggested seeing a psychologist but refuses that and she argues and is 100% sure that she is normal.She says she doesnot believe that her parents could have done such a thing to her.
My writing to you is to ask for help on how i can deal with this problem. Is it possible that she was a victim of Female Genital Mutilation? Could this have been a distortion at birth? Please kindly help me. Many thanks in advance.
M.R.
Girls in the Netherlands are not circumcises. Your partner can have an examination done by a gynecologist to find out if anything is wrong. Women usually do not get orgasms during intercourse, but by having their clitoris stimulated by hand or by a vibrator.
Read more about women's orgasm.