I keep trying to "adopt" my daughter's boyfriends (she is 18). I feel an overwhelming urge to "Mother" them - take them shopping, fix their hair, feed them, etc. I want them to pay a lot of attention to me, too - and spend time with me, talk to me over the phone or e-mail, etc. I don't have any romantic feelings or desires about them that I am aware of. I do have a 22-yr old son who is no longer living at home, who is the light of my light. I miss him terribly, and have considered that I am trying to fill the hole in my life he left. PLEASE HELP!!! Now I even feel uncomfortable thinking about them being romantic together (kissing, etc.) I think I am jealous!?! What in the world is wrong with me??
You are suffering from "empty nest syndrome". Your children do not need you, the way they did before. You need new interests and new people to care about. A foster child is one option until you get grandchildren.