I'm sorry if that came out wrong. It just sounds very messed up when you say to a woman who has been flat-out lied to: you have to ask yourself "what kind of woman does this man respect?"
I don't think that kind of man respects anyone, least of all himself.
I didn't mean to insult you. I apologize if I did. It's just that the way you phrased it, is not understanding of a woman who's been lied to...No harm intended.