Dating someone 3 years - not living together - he only allows intimacy when he wants it - turns me down constantly if I want it..
Today on the phone before work he stated he had to go ( I wake him up by phone not living with him) since he had to please himself.(using polite words here - he used the crude words -J.O.)
Never in my life have I had a man say that to me - what does this mean in our relationship?
It is not easy to allow intimacy when you are not in the mood. Sex should only be done when two people want it at the same time. If you wake somebody up, that person can be very angry. Let him sleep until he wakes up by himself, if you want him to be polite.