Hallo. I have spent weeks on the internet and read so many articles but quite never found out really how to cope with my "dilemma".
Background: I have 2 kids at age 3 and 5 now living with me 100%.
I have shared custody with my ex girlfriend, but we have a legal contract that states: She has "right to see" the kids twice/week a' 3hours, with a contactperson at all time. My ex has all the insigna of(mixed)Borderline, Narcissist, Antisocial/Historionic
(Glibness & Superficial Charm, Grandiose Sense of Self-Worth,
Proneness to boredom & need for stimulation, Pathological lying
Conning/manipulative, Lack of remorse)
I've been going through 2 socialinvestigations, investigation-home(permanent living)for 2 months, 5 policecharges(all dismissed).
But.. the aftermath.. ?
Now, today? I encourage my kids to love their mum. And I never say a bad word about her. There is no way she belive her self as "ill" and it costs a lot of energy to us all.
So.. Theres not many articles on the internet on how to cope/behave when there are kids involved? I.E you can and will not leave and never speak to a her
as you could with anyone else. She's their mammy.
Any advice(or links to)would be much appreciated.
Thanks / Magnus