We have been married for 17 years. My husband recently quit his job to be home with our dauthter and to help around the house. He's been home over 2 years now. At first he was very good making dinner and doing all the extras around the house. He started taking paxil for depression about a year ago. His mom takes it too. He also takes cholestorol medicine. He has also gained some weight recently. More recently too he's been not doing as much around the house and I have begun to resent it. He has problems sleeping and most nights he sleeps on the couch because he wakes me with snoring and moving around. It causes arguments and we haven't had much sex either.
We had a big fight this morning. I'm working from home and he's still sleeping at 11am. I get very upset, I think he should be up doing stuff. We argued and he left. I don't know what to do. Am I unreasonable? How do i stop these resentment feelings? I think he needs to go back to work, not for money but so he has something to do and doesn't sleep all day.
I love my husband very much and don't want to loose him. But I feel we're growing apart.
Ask him in a friendly way to do what you wish from him. Give him a list every morning if that is acceptable to him. Appreciate him whenever he satisfies your needs. Young men often want sex, but older men you will have to seduce. Let him sleep in the morning if he wants. Never quarrel, just ask him: Will you make a fantatic dinner for me tonight? Would you like to have great sex with me on friday? Accept his answers even if he says no, but show him how happy you are when he is satisfying you.