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KOM2002 (plain)  she doesn't love me.

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reply Re: she doesn't love me. , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 10 Sep 2005 12:02
plain she doesn't love me. , ****** , 10 Sep 2005 09:20
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she doesn't love me.
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Date: Sat, 10 Sep 2005 09:20:54 +0200
Language: English


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After almost 9 years of marriage my wife told me a few months ago that before we got married she had a relationship with someone else (who I knew). At first it didn't bother me that much but later I started piecing the timeline and the big picture together. She started seeing him before we engaged and I know for a fact she continued to see him after we were engaged.

After 4 years of marriage I started cheating on my wife. It had been 2 years since our first child and she lost all interest in sex. The affairs were purely sexual. I did not want a relationship. I needed sex and eventually paid prostitutes. We managed to deal with my infidelity but I am having a big problem dealing with hers.

She says it happended before we were married. It was an emotional relationship as well as sexual. I feel the whole marriage was based on a lie. I wouldn't have married her if I found this out. I am starting to suspect she doesn't love me and never did. How can you love someone and fuck someone else while you are engaged?

We talked about it and my wife doesn't want to hear it anymore. I can't stop thinking about this.
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Re: she doesn't love me. (Reply to: 52036 from ****** )
From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Sat, 10 Sep 2005 12:02:35 +0200
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It is stupid to talk about past lovers if you have a jealous husband. If you want to go on with your marriage, ask your wife if she wants to stay married to you. If she says yes, forgive her everything and forget about it. A bad memory is good for a happy marriage. Never mention her past lover again. It was so many years ago. Try to make your wife happy and do not torture her with your thoughts. Take SSRI medicine, if you cannot handle this situation without help.

Many men have the same problems as you have. Read more.

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