grieving over my mom

Hi,
I lost my mom 2 years ago, and it still hurts me so badly when I think she is dead. I grieved over her a lot, and I cried but it seems like my brain and my heart cannot understand that she is dead. I cannot let go of her. It's so unfair that she died at 69, exactly at a time when things were going great for the whole family. We could have had such a wonderful life, loving each other and everything. We were all simply devastated! It's so, so sad that she died. My poor dad is alone all the time and had to reinvent his life, and myself, the baby in our family, miss her a lot and still cry over her. I noticed that lately, when I experience difficulties in my life, it's like the thought of her being dead makes me even more sad, and I start to cry so hard. It amazes me that some times, I cry with the same intensity, and I feel the exact pain I felt when I cried and cried like all of us were crying next to her dead body.
I would appreciate any word of advice from you.
Thank you so much
E

I understand you. My mother died almost three years ago. Life is not fair. We need to accept it the way it is and still do our best. How would your mother want you to live in this new situation.

My mother had a summerhouse that she loved very much. I take good care of it and I know she would be very happy if she knew. She did not want me to sell it, when she died. I also made a photo album with all the pictures from my mother's entire life. It helped me. Would something like that help you?

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