It maybe too late at this point after 14 years of marriage. My husband refused counseling. He never had a sex drive after marriage and we only have sex maybe once a year. He often seems almost physically sick after the act of intercourse. He watches Playboy videos and the only experience before was with "working girls" from his Navy days. As his wife he now refuses all sex. I am very nice looking. I stayed due to his excellent income for the family.
My child from a pervious marriage is now grown and I for the first time have a boyfriend after 5 years of an phyical contact from my husband. Since this was an issue when we first married, what would have cause this to happen in a man?
People are different. Some men want sex many times a day and some once a year or never. Treatment might help your husband, but if he refuses treatment, that is not an option. As long as you are married, you need to find an accomodation that works. Is it acceptable for your husband that you have a boyfriend, or would he rather divorce you, if he knew?
Trying to change other people is often not successful.
Read our pages about lack of sex drive in men.
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