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Hi,

My husband has started this thing where he waits until just after I am asleep, then he has sex with me (usually oral sex, otherwise he just ejaculates outside of me- he does not penetrate me when I am sleeping- although he may have tried or done it when I am not aware of it). I often wake up in the middle of it or will wake up in the night to go to the bathroom and become aware of it.

When he does this, I feel confused (ie., why doesn't he just do this when I am awake?) and scared of him. I am scared to go to sleep next to him out of fear of what he'll do. What should I do?

Thanks so much,
T.C.

Tell you husband that you only accept sex when you are awake. If that does not help, get your own bedroom with a key, so you can lock the door whenever you want to.