I had breast cancer 3 yrs ago. When I had surgery my husband took me for surgery but left after I came out of surgery. I had to be by myself all the time I was in the hospital.Hysterectomy 2wks before. All tests I have to go by myself. I have heard from lots of women who's husband never left their side. He also forgets all of my dr appointments and during chemo had family members take me instead of going with me. He's always sorry, But I can't forget and forgive him. Everytime I read or here from other women I get sad and feel like I don't care about him anymore. I don't want to leave him but I can't forgive him either.
If you want something from a man, ask him kindly to be there for you: "would you please go with me to the hospital?". Men are only there for you if you ask them to be. It is not mean, it is just the way that they work. According to them is is loving to assume that you will be able to do it on your own and that you will only ask for help when it is truly necessary. Ask your husband lovingly about all that you need in the future. Show him gratitude if he does something that makes you happy, but accept it if he at some point cannot be there for you. Try asking him the next day again. His love for you will grow if you treat him in this way.
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