I came home 3 days ago and found roses and a sweet note left by my Fiance who said in the note that he had "to go into the world now and find real security for our future".My step son informed me that his Father was in a rush and told him he would be gone for a week because he had some real business opportunity. He had rocked hit bottom after losing all his millions but I was there for him for 5 years to provide moral support. The card touched me because he said that his heart belongs to me and that he had a mission and that was to rebuild our future and provide real financial security for us.Two days past, and he never communicated with me. I had the belief that he went to New York for a big job interview. And then I realized that his old buddy whom he used to take around the world traveling wasn't at his home and upon extra detective work, I discovered he is in Korea and going to Beijing, supposedly to attend a conference (he planned to network) and then off to China afterwards. His children had told me that this was his trait and he used to do it to their Mother, who would weep and become hysterical when he would vanish for weeks or months. He had countless affairs during their marriage.

One thing that bothers me and angers me is that he had planned it for months. His buddy and him connived to conceal it from me. The planning for this trip was a long one, and he never told me that he was really going. He mentioned about the probability of going but I told him that it was expensive. He never gave me presents on Christmasses, birthdays nor Valentines, but he would shop till he dropped for himself or with his son, One time, he shopped with his son the day before my birthday, on my birthday and the day after my birthday. I was thinking he would get me something but he never did.

Although those actions were really hurtful and sometimes want me to leave him, his sweetness to me in other parts of our relationship compensated for his selfishness. But this time, I truly feel that he did a bastardly act. Is this the action of an honorable, good man? Please help me. I think the roses was for me to not question him.

What do you think of his action?

He both hurts and adores you. Only you can decide if his positive sides make up for his negative ones. If you choose to keep him; have no illusions of him but rather see him for the person he his.