Home   News   Forums   Log in    Get personal advice    My area     Help    
Go to:
All forums
  Ask the Expert Areas
  No psychological free advice is available in English (for more info click "info")
  boyfriend with depression


KOM2002 (sad)  boyfriend with depression

Thread Messages in thread:

reply Re: boyfriend with depression , ****** , 11 Oct 2004 19:43
sad boyfriend with depression , 11 Oct 2004 17:03
 34956. To top of pageTop   Next message down
boyfriend with depression
From: ******
Date: Mon, 11 Oct 2004 17:03:55 +0200
Language: English


Reply to this message

Reply to all  

I have been dating a guy for three months and I am very concerned about his depression. He has a history of alcoholism and symptoms of depression. He has been on an anti-depressant and has recently stopped taking the pills. He doesn't want to be on pills and says he doesn't want any help. How can i best support him and help to convince him to help himself? Is it best to just continue coddling him or give him space to discover his own answers?
 34962. To top of pageTop Previous message Previous message  
Re: boyfriend with depression (Reply to: 34956 from ****** )
From: ******
Date: Mon, 11 Oct 2004 19:43:34 +0200
Language: English


Reply to this message

Reply to all  

Dear Ali !

It depends very much on you. You seem to be attracted by this guy. You know he has a history of alcoolism and is vulnerable to depression. Stopping antidepressant medication is not at all a proof of rational behavior. So he behaves more or less like a little child, isnĀ“t he? If you are willing to take care for a little child, you might want to coddle him. You should expect a bad outcome with severe depression and alcohol problem. You might believe in miracles and he will change without therapy. I believe in miracles, but I do not believe he will change without any reason.

If you are deeply in love with this guy you should not put to much pressure on him. But : He must be willing to change to have a chance of a fair relationship. Otherwise he is still the little child and you will be terribly depressed in 6 or 12 months.

You are not logged in
Today's date: Tue, 18 Jun 2024 09:03:42 +0200
KOM 2002