Past Boyfriends

Hello,

I have been married now for 3 years. Prior to marrying my wife, she had 2 ex-boyfriends that she was intimate with that she kept friendships with. When we got married, I told her that it hurt me for her to communicate with these guys and so she stopped. My wife and I now have a divorce on file, yet trying to make the marriage work. Once I filed for the divorce, she called up these guys for advice. She has now told me that if we are to get back together, it is important for her to have casual communication with these guys ie; e-mail and phone conversation. Otherwise she will feel resentful for giving up these relationships like she did in the beginning of the marriage. This problem has plagued our marriage ever since the beginning. She feels resentful for having to give up these guys totally, and I feel hurt and resentful anytime she communicates with them. What advice do you have.

Jag förstår både dig och henne. Ni behöver hitta en lösning, som ni båda kan acceptera.

Din hustru har ingen sexuell relation med männen, utan hon behöver ha dem som vänner. Du kan be henne att inte kommunicera med dem och du kan berätta hur du känner det. Men du kan inte tvinga henne att ge upp sina vänner.

Kanske kan du hitta två kvinnor, som du pratar i telefon med, när din hustru talar med sina manliga vänner.