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why my boyfriend calls me something else in bed.
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Date: Tue, 7 Sep 2004 05:43:47 +0200
Language: English

 


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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and were having sex. Well one night after a night of drinking we started having sex and he called me kritrisha. I heard it once and i just thought i was really drunk and then he said it again. He didn't make a face like he didnt mean to say it, he said it like it was my name. SO when I heard it the second time I got up and asked him why he said that he said he didn't know. I asked him if he knew someone whos named sounded like "kir" and he said yea shes married. So then I thought he was cheating. And he said it again when I got upset. I was leaving his apartment and as I was leaving he grabbed my hand and said it again. He said it was his friends ex girlfriend and he has never hugged her kissed her anything. So I asked his friend about he and he said pretty much the same thing. So I forgave him. Well another night he came to get me at a bar cause I was too drunk to drive home and he was sober and by the time we got home I was pretty much sober. Well we were having sex and he said "kri". And I said were you gonna do that again and he said no. He said he was going to say his name cause he didnt wanna "go" yet. Well we stoppped having sex cause it kind of ruined it. And the next night I was talking to his friend and his friend told me heas going to say kristinia or something again. I got pissed and told him I knew. He says he isnt cheating and he really doesnt have time to cheat and we hang out a lot and no girls call his cell phone and he doesnt have a house phone. He says the only reason he can think of is military stress life. So I was wondering if someone knows why this is happening. If he isnt cheating then what is going on. Please get back to me. Thanks

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Re: why my boyfriend calls me something else in bed. (Reply to: 33228 from ****** )
From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Tue, 7 Sep 2004 06:13:30 +0200
Language: Swedish , English

 


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Det är svårt att veta vad som händer i din pojkväns huvud när han använder fel namn. Det vanliga är att man oavsiktligt använder namnet på en gammal kärlek, inte för att man älskar den personen längre, utan för att hjärnan fungerar så, att den letar efter gammal information i nya situationer.
En möjlighet är att din pojkvän är fascinerad av själva namnet och vill använda det i erotiska sammanhang, inte för att han är fäst vid kvinnan som heter så, utan för att själva namnet tänder honom.
Fortsätt att fråga honom, så kanske han kommer på det sanna svaret så småningom. Men fråga inte anklagande utan vänligt och utforskande, för att du vill lösa gåtan med namnet.
Använd gärna humor och kalla honom för Adrian när han kallar dig för Kritrisha.
Era alkoholvanor verkar allvarliga och kan leda till alkoholism. Fundera på vad ni kan göra för att förebygga en sådan trist utveckling.



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