I know these have been around for a while now but I thought I'd let all you women know exactly what happened to me:
I had been in a relationship for four months when I had fallen pregnant after a drunken fumble with my boyfriend, despite taking the morning after pill. Upon telling him that I was pregnant, after a few weeks and a missed period, he became very seclusive and started speaking to me a lot less. "We" then came to the conclusion that I should have an abortion due to us being "too young" to support a child, as I'm 18 and he's 21. I knew in my heart that I was making the wrong decision and upon us turning up at the clinic, he confessed to me that he had to 'emotional attachment' to the "baby" and that HE needed to focus on university.
I then went through with the abortion (which I still and always will regret) and I didn't see him for about a week and a half because I was in intense agony and was physically unable to leave the house. After 10 days, I was back at college and after not seeing him for nearly two weeks, he approaches me and says that he 'did not feel the same any more' and therefore wanted to break up. Gob smacked, I didn't speak to him for a week, I wasn't prepared to speak to someone who'd broken up with me after all that I'd been through.
He then texts me and says that he'd made the wrong decision and that he still wanted to be with me. I went along with things and we got back together, only for him to text me THE NEXT DAY, saying that he once again 'didn't feel the same any more'. At which point, I was in no way shape or form prepared to give him the satisfaction of seeing me upset and therefore got to work to making myself feel better again and I did feel a lot better in myself.
The latest, however, is that he's told me today that when I was going through the pure agony of an induced miscarriage, he was having sex with another woman, but still insisted that he still 'missed' me and 'loved' me and had the audacity to moan at me for going out to lunch with another boy even though we were no longer together.
Moral of the story is: be careful who you trust, never think that you completely know any one, regardless of gender. Never give them 100% and always slightly hold back before you fall in love with someone. Oh and on another note, never be emotionally or physically forced into having an abortion if your heart isn't agreeing with it. It may not be "convenient" but think long and hard before taking the decision to have a termination, because once you do it, there's no going back. x
Moral of the stro