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sad Discovery , 22 Oct 2009 22:41
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 2yrs now and recently living together for 5months.

We have always been open about our sex life together and desires,or so I thought. While doing washing I discovered that there were ejaculation stains on his underwear,and quite often,and at times when I we haven't been intimate. Naturally I freaked out and was concerened that he was seeing someone else.

We also share a computer and I discovered he has a whole stash of porn that I knew nothing about.I also found quite a few cd's with porn on hidden in the back of the stationary cupboard. In a way I was relieved that the stains were caused by porn but on the other hand I was extremely hurt.

I am very open when it comes to new ideas and share with him when I want to satisfy myself knowing how much it turns him on. A while ago a friend of ours was caught watching porn and he turned around and said he doesn't understand why guys in a relationship do that. So now I'm totally confused. I have asked him before if he masturbates and he point blankly denied it.
What's probably hurts the most is that if he did share it with me occasionally I would be so turned on.

How do I deal with this? Do I approach him about it? Should I just learn to accept it?

I'm more hurt by his dishonesty than him masturbating while watching other women. And at the large extent of his secret collection that he lied about.

He knows,cause I have told him before that we should watch some porn together. But I guess he would rather have it all to himself.

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