I have the same problem. My boyfriend was going to leave me last december, but then i read his phone and i confronted him and he felt like an idiot and cried and realized how much he loves me and swore to me that he would never do it agian. BUt I got on his facebook to put up the pictures he asked me to put up not knowing he was also on his facbook and found him talking to his old babysitter. She's 35 and buys us stuff...they were talking about his dream about her and him having oral sex...she is going to text him later today so they can talk more..then she said the rule is what? and he says when she says come over...he goes over and fucks her. I am at a totall loss. I left my family for this guy...we have been together for almost 2 years...he is the love of my life...he tells me evryday that he can't wait to marry me and have kids and we hve a joint bankaccount and he keeps swearing that he doesn't do anything like that naymore...that he used to talk to her like that becuase he likes to see how far he can push things...i love him so much...what do I do...he's at least cheating on my verbally...read his phone and he toldmy best friend that he had a dream aobut her too...my fear is that he could be cheating on my physically too...i have no idea what to do...