Hi-
I have been married almost 11 years to my husband. We have a 3 yr. old son. My husband has within the last 2 years been unbearable to live with. He has developed an anxiety problem. And seems to be bit of a hypercondriac. However, he has been angry and verbally abusive to me. He continues on a daily basis to belittle me and explode with anger for minor little things. Like this AM. He asked me why I make a full pot of coffee and don't drink it. Asking me in a way that I am like a child. "Why, Why, why would you do that". I don't answer when he acts like that and he explodes cussing in front of our little boy. He acts very much like a uncontrollable baby that it is driving me crazy to the point where I dislike him more than I have the guts to express. When I try to talk to him about it he blames it all on his anxiety problems which he blames his anxiety problems on me. he told me that I dont care and I need to lose weight and quit smoking. I only weigh 39 lbs and am 5 ft. 6 inches tall. So I am not heavy.... Anyway, he says that I do not pay any attention to him.
I really feel that I am incapable of paying attention to him because I am constantly angry with him. How can I pay attention to him when I dislike him so much? Is it possible for his anxiety to be causing him so much anger? Is it my fault? How do I help him with this? I feel that I could not get a divorce due to my little boy. I could never do that to him.
How can I change things?