Letter from a reader: I agree. Try and find somewhere to go when the children come, or just know that when they do come there is always something that is going to happen. I have lived through this, and now 25 years later, and his children are grown, everything is better. His kids have been through alot, and probably does not have the same parenting that they had or probably not any consistent parenting now. You never know, but you are the one they can payback. Depending on you relationship, this will be the test to see just how strong it is. Good Luck.