My partner is very good friends with his ex wife. they have been separated for 15 yrs and have 3 adult kids together. she has 4 from another relationship (after him) and she visits almost every second day. he jokes "she still treats me like a husband" and he does "checks" on her new boyfriends and offers advice of which she accepts and considers. should I be concerned? we get on well, but I'm uncomfortable with it all.
I do not think you should be concerned. If he loves her, he would have stayed with her. He knows her too well to fall in love. Phone an old boyfriend when your partner talks to his former wife.
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