Dr. Palme,
I am currently with my sister in law and her husband as they try to reconcile instead of Divorce after 15yrs of marriage.
She suffers from depression and low self esteem - not from abuse. She has it pretty well managed with therapy and prescriptions.
He suffers from - a huge ego, he's work aholic, and EXTREMELY SMART and I just learned that he was abused as a child. He also had a poor relationship with his father. It was an aunt that abused him. His dad was overly strict, not sure I would call it abusive. He until recently was a great guy, family guy, his personality and thought process aren't the same as they were 6months ago. He has moved out and plunged himself into work. His escape... He is starting to see a councilor, but I don't want him to throw away a good marriage in the process..
I am just a good friend and not prepared nor qualified to work through these issues with them. Fully prepared to be there fore support.
Please let me have some suggestions
Do they want to repair their marriage or would they be happier without each other? I always try to save the marriage when I work with couples, but sometimes this is not possible.
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