I am 49, divorced for over 15 years and she is 34 and divorced for 2 years. She wants to live together with no committment for marraige ever but would like ot live together as though we were. Originally I was totally against living together without some sort of maybe a 5 yr committment but after a lot of thinking (and praying) I feel it would be no problem to live together without a committment. We would live in her house and I would pay half while renting out my home. I feel she is afraid of marraige because of an abusive previous marraige and -like I - feel there is no reason for divorce except for adultery.
Orginally I also wanted children and she did not instead wanting to focus on her career. I feel at my age that is not a maojr issue since I have 4 grown kids and will have grandkids someday. I am more than willing to make this concessiin and have even offered to have a vasectomy so she can get off the pill.
Now she wants to break up saying she feels I would someday have regrets. I feel the only regeret I would have is if I lost her. I truly believe her reasoning and feel mher main concern is for me but I just don't feel she should make my decisions on what will make me happy. Please send some advice. I know these concessions are minor and we would be happy if we were together. THanks!!!!!!!!!!!!
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17 Dec 2006 22:49
