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reply ** Re: My future mother-in law is destroying our relation. , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 17 Dec 2006 22:15
My future mother-in law is destroying our relation
From: fn42hhbr01
Date: Sun, 17 Dec 2006 18:53:48 +0100
Language: English

I'm a student living in PuertoRico, I met my girlfriend 2 years ago in college but we started dating summer 2006 while she visited her family in Orlando, and I was working for Disney in the summer, there she introduced me to her parents and everything was going well. When I came back to PuertoRico in august we kept on dating and formalized our relationship, but we didn't say nothing to her parents.

Begining of september my girlfriend says that she has to talk something serious with me related to some comments that were told to her mom, so I was really worried I thought the worst, (that maybe i got pregnant a girl or something) when we taled she told me that some one told her mother I was Bisexual, I started laughing and I felt relief because because it wasn't nothing tat I had imagened, and I'm straight so there is no proof for that nonsense.

The comment didn't worried me at the moment cause well, because obviously I wasn't Bisexual. Time kept passing and her mother started to suspect that we were more than friends and everytime she called her she brought up the same disscussion saying that I could have AIDS, that if she becomes my girlfriend I'm gonna cheat to her with another guy... On november her mom came to PuertoRico to visit and found a love letter I wrote to her, and our relationship was no longer kept secret, when her mom went back to orlando the number of phone calls to my girlfriend raised (from 10 calls a day to 18, not exagerating) and 95% of them were asking with who she was, where she was, what she was doing.... telling her to stay away from me, she even threatened to no help her economicly and force her to move from the college here in PR. to a college in Florida just so she couldn't see me.

The problem is I don't know who made the comments or the intentions, and also I promised my girlfriend I wouldn't tell no one about the situation because in the beginning she promised her mom she wouldn't tell me. Right now I'm desperate, because she in visiting her mom and I'm sure she is being presure constantly, she can't call me because her mom is always looking with who she is talking on the phone and can't email her because her mom is watching what she is doing constantly.

I really love her and in these 6 month we have been together we haven't had any problems, the only problem we have is her mom trying to control her, I wish I could go someplace with her, but I can't, I'm a full time student and I still have 2 years to go for my bachelors degree and she is in the same situation, I wanna finish my studies before I can start my own life.

I dont know what to do, I have tried my best not to say offensive coments about her mom but she is getting on my nerves I have been patient for more than 5 months in the same situation, and I dont know what to do now. can you give me some advice? what can I do? and right now I've been depressed since she left cause we haven't had much comunication (exept for 3 text messeges she sent me) and 1 month without knowing nothing about her is very dificult. any advice will be greatly appreciated.
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** Re: My future mother-in law is destroying our relation. (Reply to: 89946 from fn42hhbr01 )
From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Sun, 17 Dec 2006 22:15:34 +0100
Language: English


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You and her mother are rivals fighting for the same girl. This is rather common. Is there any chance of getting the mother-in-law to accept you?

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