she has been doing it by her self also but as soon as she gets to the point of orgasm she freaks out and stops or pulls away when i go down on her. she is 23 never had an orgasm she sas that it freaks her out when ever she gets to that point and when i go down on her she gets to that point almost every time. it frustrates me a little and i bet it bothers her to but i dont put any pressure on her i don think it is the right thing to d i have been doing a lot of resurche i find a lot of cases like this but no definet answers i dont know what to do or what she can do that will help here. if you can suggest something definit please do. it is like she cant let go all the way that she has a fear of it. thanks