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reply ** Re: Inferiority complex , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 16 Nov 2006 21:27
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Inferiority complex
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Date: Wed, 15 Nov 2006 22:57:52 +0100
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Dear doctor Palme,
I have a problem with inferiority. I am very intelligent, and am capable of so much. I am good looking and basically have everything going for me. I even achieve good things, though i am continually grinding myself down telling myself, 'i know i can do better'. I am very anxious at times because i believe i cannot reach my limit, and i never will acvhieve my best. This gradually de- motivates me and i slump into minor introversions and stages of bad motivation.

Also i am so scared to tell people what to do. Especially as i am in a management position, and i find that employees with strong personalities intimidate me, actually people with strong personalities. It is so hard for me to speak my mind and repremand someone. I always avoid conflict, and i think this may be damaging.

I also have personality. Loads of it... but it is only channelled into being accepted and being friendly and social. At times i can light up a room, and others i feel very awkward in social situations, feeling like i have nothing to say, and lacking energy and drive. I have such a loud, positive side to me that i love and want to feel all the time. I just switch at other times into slumps of inferiority and de- motivation. I dont feel depressed when i am like this. I feel the same, just inward and like i dont want to be around anyone. This is when i get anxiety and start thinking "I should be doing so much more!" and i grind myself down after this has happened. I then lose confidence big time in my social interactions.
I might sound a bit confused to you, but if you could give me a bit of advise i would be really grateful.
Kind regards,
Kyle Martin, Mr.
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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Thu, 16 Nov 2006 21:27:52 +0100
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Do not tell people what to do, ask them instead: Would you like to...? Will you...? Do not reprimand them. Show appreciation for all the good things they do instead and they will love to satisfy you.

Read about asserting your needs.

Read about constructive thinking.




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