Dear doctor Palme,
I have a problem with inferiority. I am very intelligent, and am capable of so much. I am good looking and basically have everything going for me. I even achieve good things, though i am continually grinding myself down telling myself, 'i know i can do better'. I am very anxious at times because i believe i cannot reach my limit, and i never will acvhieve my best. This gradually de- motivates me and i slump into minor introversions and stages of bad motivation.
Also i am so scared to tell people what to do. Especially as i am in a management position, and i find that employees with strong personalities intimidate me, actually people with strong personalities. It is so hard for me to speak my mind and repremand someone. I always avoid conflict, and i think this may be damaging.
I also have personality. Loads of it... but it is only channelled into being accepted and being friendly and social. At times i can light up a room, and others i feel very awkward in social situations, feeling like i have nothing to say, and lacking energy and drive. I have such a loud, positive side to me that i love and want to feel all the time. I just switch at other times into slumps of inferiority and de- motivation. I dont feel depressed when i am like this. I feel the same, just inward and like i dont want to be around anyone. This is when i get anxiety and start thinking "I should be doing so much more!" and i grind myself down after this has happened. I then lose confidence big time in my social interactions.
I might sound a bit confused to you, but if you could give me a bit of advise i would be really grateful.
Kyle Martin, Mr.