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reply ** Re: Feeling Lost , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 16 Oct 2006 21:02
question Feeling Lost , ****** , 16 Oct 2006 19:24
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Feeling Lost
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Date: Mon, 16 Oct 2006 19:24:29 +0200
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I am very confused. I had been married for ten years and got a divorce two years ago. I met a man who was in a similiar situation. We have been together for over a year now, and just recently moved in together. We each have children from our first marriages, and we each were cheated on by our previous spouses. So we each have trust issues and lots of emotional baggage that we have been trying to work our way through. He has stated that he wants a relationship where he leads, the woman follows--more of a traditional type of relationship. I dont have a problem with that in general, that is how it was with my parents and they have been together for nearly 40 years. I am non-aggressive, and usually submit to whatever he wants to do just to please him. The problem is that lately I feel like there is a bottomless pit that I can't fill. I feel like no matter what I do, its never going to be enough for him. He checks my email, has taken control of all the finances, and now, doesn't want me to go visit my mother in California for a few days because he says we are too rocky and that I need to stay here and work on our relationship and our family. He goes on trips all the time with just the guys- whether it be hunting, snowmobiling, or whatever. I never have done any of that without him, and I dont have a group of girlfriends where I can go do just "girl" things. Visiting my mother is something I really want to do. We like to go shopping, go to movies, things I like to do. He says if I go, that I can never get upset when he goes to do his "guy" things. Its like he controls everything and makes me feel like shit for going. The past few weeks I have threatened to leave but then he says I am giving up and puts it all on me, so I put my things back and stay. I just dont know what to do anymore. Any help or advise would be great.
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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Mon, 16 Oct 2006 21:02:33 +0200
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This man is treating you very bad. In think you should leave him. He is not thinking of you but using you in a nasty way. Of course you should see your mother, whenever you want.




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