Below are my boyfriend's 16 year old son's odd characteristics
uses words incorrectly, or pronounces words incorrectly{you are "eluding" my privacy
seems to mimic social skills, not possess them
forgets simple instructions immediately
spells phonetically when he is unfamiliar with a word
urinates in bed
neglects to wash his body after urinating in his bed,
but he will change his clothes,
and knows to wash sheets
he will put 200 pounds of laundry
in the washing machine if it would fit, even if he has been told a hundred times how to load the washer
unable to follow multiple commands
short term memory is non existent
his life memories are as sharp as a multi thousand dollar, state of the art, flat screen tv
first 3 years of life constant crying
developed slowly as toddler and early childhood
could recite the alphabet, but he would not respond or look at you when we talked to him
paranoid in adolesence
as a 4 year old he would pee on himself and not even
understand that anything wrong had occured
master of video games
excellent sketch artist
he can add numbers mentally with high accuracy
he is never able to understand what he did wrong
he bought 4 bags of popcorn with his school lunch money, when he had been instructed to get a meal that he would enjoy
he came home and pulled two empty popcorn bags out of his backpack, like it was planned that he buy popcorn for lunch
he has no focus or attention span
his father told him to turn off the kitchen light and eat at the dining table Brandon turned out the light, and walked directly to the living room and started to sit. his father told him to go eat at the dining table, again. Brandon responded" Oh, that's right you did tell me that." His statement seemed oddly robotic, like he is programmed to respond to certain situations with cliches.
he is only able to communicate if he is joking, playing, or if he is the person talking
says innappropriate things like he told "me"
that I did not have to buy him lunch, as if he had some authority
he smacked my stair handrail with a belt, and when I asked him not to do that, and I pointed out all the scratches and marks, he said "Wasn't it like that when you moved in? you didn't do anything to this place." as if it was acceptable for him to further destroy my home because there were existing marks
i specificly told him that a country road near our house was dangerous, and that he was not to walk it, you know less than an hour later he had walked a mile on that road in 100 degree heat.
As a baby and child he exhibited mild symptoms of autism. as a teen he is unable to function independently, with the exception of video games and drawing. his mother says that the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck during delivery. His mother also weighed about 200 pounds durring her pregnancy, and she fell on her butt and belly in the yard very late in her pregnancy.
Brandon lived with his mother for 16 years, now he is with us. I am truly about to have a nervous breakdown. I am dealing with preschool issues with a 16 year old. His mother has had no official diagnosis for him, because then she would have to admit that he is mildly retarded, but in the interim she has created a 16 year old baby. She has made him endure anger management classes, had him on Ritalin, other medicine to control bed wetting, none of that worked. He is not, and never was hyper, although I guess it is possible that the doctor thought it might help him focus.
can you please give me some suggestions where to begin? Please!