I am the mother of a 20 year old daughter who is obese, she is in denial of her size, and i feel she is deeply unhappy. Our doctor offered councelling, but after a several month wait, she declined to go. I would like for her to get help, but am unsure where to start. I would appreciate your advice. I don't know how I should be dealing with this and would very much appreciate some self help guide-lines as a parent. Every time I approach her about her weight, she becomes angry and defensive. I know this is connected to when our marriage broke up, she misses he father and has no contact at all. I feel this is where the issue stems from. this is an urgent matter now also for her physical health as well as her emotionaly health. Thanking you for an early response. Karen.