I'm also happy I found this site. I've been going out with a married man for five months. I know I should've asked him more questions. My friend who introduced me to him had told me when I asked her if he was married that he was, but that they were just together for their kid who is five. By that I assumed they each agreed to see other people. I told him before seeing him that I wasn't looking for a fling but a serious relationship. First two weeks he would spend time with me, and after that it was less. I realized then he was sneaking from his wife and he wasn't in the situation I had supposed he was. I told him I was going to leave the relationship because I didn't want to spend my life sharing someone, breaking a family or sneaking around. He said he loved me and he would work something out but nothing's happened. He says to wait about 5 years. He's getting his ph degree, (plus his wife makes twice the moeny I make) and he's helping out his nieces through college in South Africa. I doubt his love sometimes but then I try to understand he's not in a situation to leave his wife right now. He says he doesn't love her and he thanks me for making him believe in love again. It's difficult now to let go because I developed strong feelings for him and he knows it. I do want to leave but I can't seem to find the strenght. I asked him why he walked into my life if he knew his situation? He says he didn't think, he just followed his emotions. I'm so mad too, I feel like talking to his wife about it to clear my doubts.
