I am currently in a long-term relationship and have just come out of a five month fling with a friend, who happens to be married with a kid on the way.
I am not proud of the relationship and in fact it has caused me a lot of grief. However, we have had a crush on each other for years and years and the man in question has made advances to me on several occasions before he got married two years ago.
During our relationship, I discovered I had very deep feelings for him and the chemistry was just perfect between us. We'd meet up in town about 6pm and stay out till 4/5am just so we could be together, wherever it was. We ended up falling in love with each other. This has to some extent nearly ruined our friendship. The wife is now due to give birth and they are moving away soon after.
My relationship with my partner has suffered to the point that I became withdrawn and distracted. I no longer have sexual feelings towards him either. Because of this, I told him what was going on and he freaked.
I have now ended the relationship with the married man. He said anyway that he was looking forward to having his child and wouldn't leave his wife 'out of responsibility for her and the expected child'. He has not told his wife of the affair and seems to have got away from this whole thing a lot better than me.
I am now in a situation where I am having a put together the pieces of my life. My partner and i are in difficulties and I have lost an important friendship, which will never be the same again.
My advice on having a relationship with a married man is this: if he is not prepared to leave his wife/family within the first three months of the relationship developing, the chances are he will not leave his wife at all. Irrespective of whether he is happy with her or not. If this occurs, your time is being wasted and time is precious.
Try and find somebody else to tail off the harmful relationship. The more emotional energy you pour into making positive changes, the more power you will then hold overall.
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