Hi, my name is jay, me an my girlfriend have been together for about 2 years now... at first, we couldnt keep our hands off each other (as with most new relationships) an that went on for a long time, an when we have sex, i ALWAYS pleased her... i know that sounds cocky, but she always guides me to know what to do, an after awhile, i obviously know exactly what to do... anyway, that aside... lately, as in the last few months, we've rarely had much sex, an it frustrates the hell out of me.. i feel like if i ask her, or bug her or pressure her... that pushes it further away, but at the same time.. i feel like its a problem we have an she doesnt want to fix it. I've talked to her about it, she says that sex doesnt seem important, she doesnt feel aroused by anythin or anyone, not jus me, she doesnt even touch herself... i know it wont end our relationship, as i love her so much that to end it over somethin like sex would be foolish. We still cuddle an kiss, an love each other... she jus never wants to be intimate, an i feel like an ass for pushin it. I've thought maybe shes gettin it somewhere else, but shes not really like that, an like i've said, we've discussed it an she dont know why, but it doesnt matter to her. I feel like it shouldnt matter, but it does obviously because i have urges. I think maybe its because we both work so much an have so little time wit each other... i assume that might be a factor.. i've been reading about it, an theres a lot of pshycological issues women have... but there isnt a lack of love for her, i tell her how beautiful she is everyday, an that she matters to me, an seein her makes my day worth it etc... i know she feels loved... any advice????
Many young couples have the problems you describe. Women usually do not have the same urge for sex as men have. They need to be courted to give in to sex. It is different in the beginning of a relation when you are infatuated och more strongly influenced by hormones.